Continuing the Message of “Can I Kiss You?”

by Free Speech on May 19, 2009

Lodi, WI~

Lodi Valley News serving Lodi, WI & the Lake Wisconsin area with local information since Earth Day 2008.

Lodi, WI-5/19/09

Hope House of South Central Wisconsin would like to thank Lodi High School for partnering  with us to sponsor Mike Domitrz, nationally-renown speaker on healthy dating and consent, to present his “Can I Kiss You?” student assembly last Tuesday.  We would also like to give a great big thank you to Mike himself for doing an excellent job in engaging the student body. 

If you know students that attend Lodi High School, I suggest you have a conversation with them to see what they thought and what they learned.  As parents and community members, it’s important for us to help continue, reiterate, and model the positive message that people like Mike are sending to our youth.  Mike emphasized several simple points: respect yourself, respect your partner, ask before you act, respect the answer, open a door, and be a friend.

Asking before kissing someone or being intimate with them gives them a choice ahead of time and respecting their answer prevents you from doing something to their body that they do not want.  Opening a door is about checking in with the people we care about to let them know that if anyone ever has or ever does touch them against their will or without their consent that you will be always be there for them.  Being a friend involves not remaining silent when we witness people engaging in inappropriate behavior.  Mike gave the example of being at a party and intervening if you suspect that someone is trying to “hook up” with someone who is drunk.

Rather than techniques that reduce our individual risk of being sexually assaulted, these actions that Mike is promoting are about prevention and creating a culture of respect for ourselves and for other people’s bodies.  If you would like to learn more about Mike’s Date Safe Project or read his tips for parents, visit

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